Thanksgiving Contacts

We had a nice Thanksgiving. It was smaller than last year's, so it was a lot easier to cook for. My stepfather is off on a business trip, my uncle is staying away due to family drama, and so on and so forth. We did have two extra Obama staffers who showed up at the last minute.

Before Thanksgiving, I finally emailed Sunny's bio grandmother. I probably should have done it before, but I have a lot of conflicted feelings about her. After actually meeting her at the funeral, I have a much more positive impression than I originally did.

I imagine Sunny has conflicted feelings too. He loves her, and she made promises to him about taking care of him that she didn't keep. But he recently saw a picture of her and said he wanted to talk to her, so that's what we're doing. I don't think I'm ever going to be satisfied as to why she couldn't take care of him; however, the future is what's important here.

Sunny talked to her before Thanksgiving. She asked me what to get him for Christmas and I gave her a good idea, and we talked about visiting next year. We also talked about Sunny's baby brother. She has visits with him at their foster mom's. She told us again that it was Sunny's mother's wish that Sunny and his baby brother would grow up together if anything happened to her, and that hopefully, this would come to pass soon. I told her that I wanted to make sure Sunny and his brother always had a relationship with her. She has a lot of sad things going on in her life right now, so talking to Sunny was really important for her and cheered her up a lot.

Sunny's bio family and foster family have a fair amount of history together, although they're not related in any way. They even go to same family doctors.

Sunny also got to chat with his foster family on the webcam on Thanksgiving. He saw two foster cousins he really missed... they had a great time making funny faces and "peace out" signs at each other.

The other person I'd like to get in touch with eventually is Sunny's bio uncle. Sunny was so attached to him that he thought his uncle was his father; I've had to gently correct him about that several times. His uncle took care of Sunny for a while when Sunny was very young, and he wanted to adopt Sunny, but his father threatened to disown him if he did that, so he didn't. By the way, Sunny's maternal grandmother and grandfather have been divorced for a while, and his stepgrandmother was yet another relative who used to talk care of him.

Sunny's uncle hasn't made contact on his own through his mother, but I imagine he would like to talk to Sunny.