Dark Sarcasm in Adoption

Guy recently reminded me of a conversation he had last year, when he was proudly telling his friends and colleagues about Sunny's placement with us.  I wasn't with him at the time.

One colleague gave him the standard "which country?" question, assuming international adoption. We both have the same attitude about that question: answer with a single direct sentence, ignore any looks of resulting embarrassment and just move on with the conversation.  So Guy told his colleague we were adopting from Sunny's home state.

The colleague responded, "Well, you didn't have to adopt from a third-world country!"

This would have been horribly insulting... if his colleague hadn't been Chinese-American. So the joke was really on everyone. Guy thought it was hilarious, although we won't be repeating it with any sort of frequency.