BB Timeline Update

I've been talking to BB's caseworker for a while. I have a very tentative timeline. First comes the official matching, which will happen very soon. Perhaps next week. I need to submit a letter requesting a subsidy. The subsidy is going to be a LOT lower than Sunny's, due to budget constraints. I'm just hoping for anything better than zero dollars a month. I don't care about the subsidy as much as I care about making 100% sure we get Medicaid for BB.

The actual cross-state investigation/paperwork process is going to take many months. How many? It took five months for Sunny. Add in a month for the holiday season, and another couple months for the budget crisis, and we should still be able to get full placement before BB turns two years old. I have to look at the bright side, otherwise it's just too depressing.

They won't pay or reimburse for pre-placement visits anymore, since the state ran out of money. The caseworker did say they would pay to fly BB down at least once. This is totally meaningless, since he would have to have someone fly with him, and children under 2 fly for free for anyway.

This translates into a really open visitation schedule... whatever we can afford, basically. We could bring him down to Georgia for periods of up to a week, but that would mean someone flying there, flying back with BB, then flying BB back, then flying back home.

If I figured out some way to work from there, I could go up for a week at a time, and just feed him and sleep next to him for that week... I don't know. It's going to take a lot of planning.

One really worrisome thing is that according to the Georgia adoption rules, an infant older than one year cannot sleep in the same bedroom as an adult. I'm not a believer in full-on attachment parenting, but I've read a lot of convincing stuff that says children like BB who are in danger of attachment disorder need co-sleeping.