Visit Problems

Sunny's bio grandma -- I should really give her a blog nickname, I'll use NN for now -- is a very nice person, but rather difficult to talk with, as I've mentioned before.

NN was originally going to visit us in the last week of August.  She's never left her home state before and is terrified of flying.  Her first plan was to drive.  Then she had another plan to go in September instead along with a friend of hers who could do the driving.  Now the friend has been laid off and can't take the trip.  So she's going to see the doctor to see if she can fly... no, she's just going to get into the car and drive by herself... no, she's going to follow my suggestion and take the train... no, she's just going to get in the car and tough it out and keep driving and Jesus will protect her...

I just keep responding to all this with short emails: "I'm sure whatever you decide is fine!  Hope to see you soon!"

My mother calls her, sympathetically, "a bit of a lost soul". NN has had a lot of traumatic things happen in her family, but I've seen other people get up and keep going from them, whereas she seems to have retreated from life and wrapped herself up in grief.  My mother is ten years older than her, but looks ten years younger, is ten times more active and ten times less concerned about her age.

We talked about it the other night and decided that there was a large possibility NN would never come at all.  So maybe in the next email I need to figure some way to give her a graceful out.  I'm upset more on Sunny's behalf than my own, because he's been looking forward to her visit.

We might be visiting there anyway later in the year.