Telling

Sunny's a very talkative kid. Last night we called his foster family. He asked to speak with five or six of the other kids. Each time he said, "Guess what? Mommy ___ died. She was sick then she got better, then she got very sick and then she died." Pause. "So what are you doing?"

I'm pretty sure he's going to say the same thing to his friends in school today. Telling him to be quiet would be going against his nature. I just had a talk with him and reminded him that most other kids only have one mother, so they might get confused when they heard him talk about Mommy ___ dying, so he might want to tell them that his Georgia Mommy is doing fine. If they tell him he can't have more than one mother, they're wrong.

Sunny's stubbornness can be infuriating, but it makes him resistant to peer pressure.
A few days ago Sunny complained about his friend telling him he "was a girl" because he liked Dora the Explorer. And wasn't that crazy? We told him that yes, his friend was definitely wrong. Why, if his friend was right, any girl that liked a boy was a boy, and any boy that liked a girl was a girl, and that would just be completely nuts!

I had to tell his teacher this morning about what happened. I wanted to clear up any potential confusion. I don't want anyone to accuse Sunny of lying or being crazy. As I've mentioned before, people seem to assume I'm Sunny's biological mom... I've never had a single person ask me if he was adopted so far. I told his teacher about Sunny's situation, and said that he might be telling a lot of other kids today that his Mommy ___ died. She asked if the death was expected, and I said, sort of... that she had been very sick.

Right now I'm leaning in the direction of going to visit, but not attending the full funeral.