Educational Frustration
I bought some educational games for Sunny, but I've run into some difficulties. He gets frustrated very easily with me.
We were playing a game yesterday where you had to combine a blend and a word ending. Things were going great for a while. Then, he got stuck creating a certain word. Creating a word lets you move ahead one square on the board, and since he's so competitive it's a great motivation. He had to combine SP and AN and then SP and OT. He kept on saying "splan" and "splot". If I tried to help him he got frustrated and if I didn't try to help him he got frustrated. After a couple minutes he started getting too emotionally upset to continue so we had to put the game away and calm down for a bit. He was absolutely fine for the rest of the day. Later that night we all went to a great Ethiopian restaurant and had an excellent meal.
He does much better with his tutor! Ideally, I want to be working on reading stuff at home (games, flashcards) for 15 minutes a day. But I don't know how well that's going to work. We've got two problems: 1) he takes things more personally when he's with me and he gets frustrated. If I push him on something, I'm not just pushing him, I'm "not being nice to him." 2) I'm probably a bad teacher for a six-year-old with a really short attention span. My favorite student group is over the age of 30. I'm confident I'm a good teacher in that range, but otherwise, I'm really just treading water.
I may have to give up. Instead of doing work together, I could increase his tutoring from one hour a week to two. It's expensive, but that's why we get subsidy checks every month. We'll see.

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2 comments:
I have been in your shoes :) I was very excited to do all those educational things with Tara when we got her. But it drove a wedge in between us attachment-wise (keep in mind she has pronounced RAD). With my boys who, incidentally are both 6 and have ADHD, I have learned a little from Tara. We work on reading as a snuggle activity and when it gets too frustrating, I make jokes and we move on to something else. It sounds like you are doing such a great job with Sunny. I'm glad things are going so well for you!!
You might want to hang on some homeschooling web sites just to see what kinds of clever non-learning educational things people are doing with their kids. Because homeschoolers (some of 'em -- some are curriculum-centric) have great ideas to teach kids almost by accident and without the emotional baggage of "education," you know? Just ignore their rants against traditional school and grab the stuff that works for you.
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