Doctors and Social Workers

The foster mom told me that Sunny has been taken off his medication because he was exhibiting side effects. Now, his doctor has decided to put him back on a completely different medication. I'm a bit worried about this. I was hoping we would get to meet him in an unmedicated state. It doesn't sound like he's horribly unmanageable and miserable off medication, so why put him on a different medication at this point? This really underlines the necessity of getting him a good doctor here. I want to be 100% sure that any medication he takes is really in his long-term best interest. I'm not casting aspersions on his foster mom; she's simply following the advice she's given.

I'm also frustrated because it's been so hard to contact our caseworker all this week and last week. We have some really important paperwork to go over. I email, I leave one voicemail message a day, I call three times a day: morning, mid-afternoon and late afternoon. I consider that persistent, but not obnoxious. It doesn't work. My secret weapon is that my husband works from home, so I can always send him by the office. This is what he did yesterday, and now we finally have an appointment. Our caseworker said that they're doing an unprecedented amount of matching and having lots of staffings; they're "experiencing growing pains". I told him that's just a slippery way of saying "we're understaffed". I do think they're doing their best, but let's get real, understaffing there has been a serious problem for at least a year now.

I'm going to complain about my husband now. He reads my blog and knows about this complaint already. He trusts doctors and social workers and other experts way too much! I'm more suspicious. I believe in showing respect for experts. Yes, they know more than I do. However, these experts don't have my best interest as their sole interest. They have lots of other motivations, like "how can I handle this patient so my insurance company is happy" or "I don't want to get in trouble for breaking a rule" or "I'm really tired today and I'm just going to spout a bunch of crap so that this person will get confused and go away and then I can take a nap". These people have to earn my trust; I'm not going to take their words as holy commandments.


I don't want to end on this grumbling note, especially on Valentine's Day. I'll end with a picture instead. I love my husband :-)