Response to a Rejection
Here's my response to a rare rejection for a sibling group application. The rejection email was short and very polite.
I'm thankful for being told we were not selected; only a few states bother to communicate this. The children were very young with almost no special needs and I doubted we would be selected. I still felt terrible for a few seconds but I'm resolved to try and turn this into a positive. I'm on my virtual knees begging for feedback.
Hello,
I appreciate your notifying us of this decision and hope that __ and __ will soon have a great permanent family.
If you would be so kind, could you please let me know what factors took us out of the running, or where you felt other homestudies were more fitting? For example, the fact that we are not experienced parents? If you could possibly spare a few minutes for a reply, I would be extremely grateful. It would really help us in determining what other children in the photolistings to apply for.
Thank you,
___
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4 comments:
I wonder if you'll get a response.
We got a rejection letter on Tuesday. We put in this inquiry last August! Isn't that just ridiculous? Made me remember why we went fost-adopt.
I hope you get a speedy response. Sorry it didn't work out.
I have sent several messages like that back to rejection letters. I never get a response in my state. Wonder if you'll get one.
As you say, it's nice that they notified you...most states don't. But with younger children and few problems, they probably already had an adoptive resource lined up way ahead of time. The only reason the children were posted and they received additional homestudies was to cover their bases and make sure they had a plan B and C. The killer is when you inquire about an older sib group with lots of issues, and you don't hear back. And they stay on the websites for years. I will never understand this system we have! Keep plugging along. Your children are out there waiting somewhere.
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